When the past calls
Meliah here: This quote hit me like a ton of bricks recently. Not because I was dwelling in the past, which sometimes we all do, but because of how spot on it was.
The past is where it belongs. It’s the same old shit, different day, on repeat. It has nothing new to offer. We’ve already analyzed, and over-analyzed, it a million times.
Now, I am aware of how teachers, coaches, and gurus give us all this easier said than done stuff without giving us tools of how to do it. I am going to offer the tricks of how to move on from the past that have worked for me. These are in order of how my brain thought to write them, which means NO PARTICULAR ORDER.
GIVE THANKS: Now I know you’re thinking “Give thanks for that bullshit?” but hear me out. When those thoughts of the past creep in, internally or aloud, say “Thank you for lessons you have taught me, and I have it from here.” or “Thank you keeping me safe at the time. I do appreciate it, and it’s time to move on.”
ACKNOWLEDGE: Journal about it, write it down, make a recording of it, just get it out. One thing Patrick and I like to do is write it down and then burn it in our fire pit. But, acknowledge where you were. Just because you were once there doesn’t mean you have to stay there. Your past doesn’t need restrain and control you now.
MOVE YOUR BODY: If your past is traumatic, find an empowerment way of movement. Martial arts is a way for people (especially women) to take back their power. Yoga is a way to release trauma stored in the body (the body does keep score). Tai Chi. EFT tapping isn’t really movement, but another great way of releasing trauma.
CELEBRATE: Take a look at how far you’ve come and celebrate it. Be proud of where you’ve been and where you are now. Do a happy dance, scream “HELL YEAH!” from the roof top, write a thank you note to yourself, whatever. This is an important thing to do. Far too often we don’t allow ourselves to see beyond the how-far-I-still-have-to-go, and to celebrate how far we’ve already come.
I hope that you found these tips of how to move on from the past helpful.
Lots of love to you all.
Meliah